No matter what kind of committed pairing you’re part of–whether it is a new marriage, you have three kids or no kids, boyfriend and girlfriend or a gay relationship–you are probably both too busy to make enough time for each other. Most of us have more tasks to do than we have available time. You may well be curious about whether adult life has always been this way or whether it is only in these modern times.
One of the first things to get postponed "until there is more time" is meaningful time with our significant others. We think we’ll suddenly find more time once this big deadline at work is finished. Or we pray that we won’t be so busy once little Sarah’s soccer season is over. We soon find ourselves pondering if our relationship has grown stale. Perhaps, we think, this happens to all couples after they have been together for a while. Perhaps it does, but even that is no excuse. No person, no project at the office, no "to do" list at your home should become more important than your partner–at least not every time that a priority must be established.
Here are a few tips for a wonderful, unique, special evening staying at your own home.
Set an evening to send the kids off to Grandma’s (or a neighbor’s house)
Unplug the TV
Choose some CDs that you each agree upon
Throw away (or hide) all phones, computers and any other devices that disrupt your life every day
Order a chef prepared, gourmet meal from an online store–one that needs virtually no effort on your part but has an aroma and flavor of one from a four star restaurant
Buy a bottle of the best wine oran invigorating mixture of fresh fruit juices
Hide your cars so nobody can tell you are home
Close all drapes
Turn off all of your lamps
Light drip less candles
Eat at a very slow pace
Take time to talk to one another in hushed tones
Actually attend to what your significant other says
Finish the meal with a slice of fluffy New York cheesecake and a glass of a complimentary dessert wine or cup of coffee
Worry about your diet some other day
Don’t wash the dishes
Blow out some of the candles
Go to a fantasy room other than your bedroom
Try to think of something that relaxes you–in a stimulating manner
Oh, yeah. Say the three magic words and mean it
Go through the whole process after a month. You will still be busy, but you won’t mind as much if you take some quality time for focusing upon each other every once in a while.
