Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Advisor, writes… Contrary to widely held finding love advice that’s out there in cyberspace, asking your date a series of interview questions is one sure-fire way to make a bad first impression and have him looking for the door.
Seriously, put yourself in someone else’s shoes, asking you questions that you’d expect to hear on a job interview. Would that put YOU at ease? I don’t think so. The love advice you get from a woman’s point of view, may not work from a man’s perspective. From a man’s point of view, a real woman is a woman who can communicate about what she wants and how she feels.
It’s more acceptable these days for a real woman to speak her mind and communicate openly from her heart. The ability to openly communicate is a prized attribute and a turn on for most women.
Whether you’re looking for a casual relationship or your soul mate, you must start from square one. For the best tips and Love Advice for Dating the most important thing to know is what you want.
1. Knowing What You Want
What qualities in your date or mate are you looking for? Get clear about what those traits are and you’ll have an easier time knowing when you meet her. Is she funny, does he think you’re funny? Is it important to you that you share the same interests? Is he interesting, well-travelled? What about sports, hobbies, politics, or food?
When you know what you want you can start sampling from what you encounter in the world or in the relationships of your friends. What do you admire about the friends who have successful relationships? Are there elements that turn you off in other peoples’ relationships? When you’re straightforward and clear about what you want, trust me, you’ll be much more able to know when he’s] the right one.
2. Be Flexible
When you’re flexible about how, when or who shows up, you remain open more possibility and how much easier it is to attract the right one. I’m not suggesting that you compromise or settle for less. I’m suggesting that you stay curious about ‘what if she’s even better than I can imagine?’ Be open to getting more than you asked for. That’s what happened for me. I got clear about what I wanted and I stopped listening to everyone else about how hard it was to meet eligible partners.
3. "BE" the Person You’d Like to Meet
That’s right. You got clear on the qualities and values you want in your lover. Now the question is, "are you anything like the person you’d like to meet"? I hope so. If not, you know what you have to do. Become like the person you want to meet. Then you’ll be a much greater match for your sweetie.
4. Let Go of the HOW
When you let go of the "way it’s supposed to happen" you allow the universe to works its magic. Though that may sound Woo-Woo, the truth is when you have a firm opinion about "HOW it supposed to be," you limit yourself. You’re also in a resistant mode, which does nothing for the attractor factor.
When you’re looking, it’s much easier to find them when you are really clear on you want. So get clear, go with the flow and be the kind of person you want to meet.
